Make an Excellent Mistake!

【鹅黄色的初恋下午】
功课 整瓮的被腌渍 酱菜纠结的在学我们女生 绑辫子
一整个咸咸的下午 我在晒谷场曝晒 那些 歪歪斜斜的字
烫平了一张皱巴巴的 糖果纸 也秘密记住了 某个人加了盐的样子

削铅笔机刨起的 木屑香味 在用空气的味道勾小指
仿佛口头约定了什么长大的事 而时间一直努力的在 刷白牙齿

那些风干的童稚 幼小干扁的身子 怎么也挤不胖我的心事
回忆在迥然不同的地址 惦记着 下一页的国语考试
再下一页 轻易就能翻到的 那些 往事

心 属于你的心 我借来寄托
却变成我的心魔 你 属于谁的
我刚好经过 却带来潮起潮落
都是因为一路上 一路上
大雨曾经滂沱 证明你有来过
可是当我闭上眼 再睁开眼 只看见沙漠
哪里有什么骆驼 背影是真的人是假的
没什么执着 一百年前你不是你我不是我
悲哀是真的泪是假的 本来没因果
一百年后没有你也没有我
风 属于天的 却吹起人间烟火
天 属于谁的 我借来欣赏 却看到你的轮廓

呼吸是你的脸
你曲线在蔓延
不断演变那海岸线
长出了最哀艳的水仙
攀过你的脸 ah…..
想不到那么蜿蜒
在你左边的容颜
我搁浅我却要继续冒险
最好没有人会明白我说什么
只有你听懂我想什么
你一脸沉默
什么
我没说什么
我没说什么
湿湿的汗水不只一点点
你眉头是否碰上黄梅天
来吧滋润我的沧海桑田
你每一脸是我一年已好久不见
抽烟抽象的眼
雨绵绵让我失眠
一点一滴的沉淀累积成
我皱纹在你的笑脸

曲:王菲
词:林夕
编:张亚东

看见的熄灭了
消失的记住了
我站在海角天涯
听见土壤萌芽
等待昙花再开
把芬芳留给年华
彼岸没有灯塔
我依然张望着
天黑刷白了头发
紧握着我火把
他来我对自己说
我不害怕我很爱他

著名漫画家郑辛遥有一幅耐人寻味的漫画，题目上写道：“你若能把‘绊脚石’变成‘垫脚石’，你就是生活中的强者。”

失敗比成功更能開展視野

“I think we’re having fun. I think our customers really like our products. And we’re always trying to do better.”

- Steve Jobs

His accomplishments and character helped define a generation and change the world. He is co-founder of the fairytale company we now know as Apple Computers. And he is the visionary of the personal computers world that led the entire computer hardware and software industry to restructure itself.

This man with boundless energy and charisma is also a master of hype, hyperbole and the catchy phrase. And even when he’s trying to talk normally, brilliant verbiage comes tumbling out.

Here’s a selection of some of the most insanely great things he said, golden lessons to help you succeed in life, Jobs-style:

1. Steve Jobs said: “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.”

Innovation has no limits. The only limit is your imagination. It’s time for you to begin thinking out of the box. If you are involved in a growing industry, think of ways to become more efficient; more customer friendly; and easier to do business with. If you are involved in a shrinking industry – get out of it quick and change before you become obsolete; out of work; or out of business. And remember that procrastination is not an option here. Start innovating now!

2. Steve Jobs said: “Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.”

There is no shortcut to excellence. You will have to make the commitment to make excellence your priority. Use your talents, abilities, and skills in the best way possible and get ahead of others by giving that little extra. Live by a higher standard and pay attention to the details that really do make the difference. Excellence is not difficult – simply decide right now to give it your best shot – and you will be amazed with what life gives you back.

3. Steve Jobs said: “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”

I’ve got it down to four words: “Do what you love.” Seek out an occupation that gives you a sense of meaning, direction and satisfaction in life. Having a sense of purpose and striving towards goals gives life meaning, direction and satisfaction. It not only contributes to health and longevity, but also makes you feel better in difficult times. Do you jump out of bed on Monday mornings and look forward to the work week? If the answer is ‘no’ keep looking, you’ll know when you find it.

4. Steve Jobs said: “You know, we don’t grow most of the food we eat. We wear clothes other people make. We speak a language that other people developed. We use a mathematics that other people evolved… I mean, we’re constantly taking things. It’s a wonderful, ecstatic feeling to create something that puts it back in the pool of human experience and knowledge.”

Live in a way that is ethically responsible. Try to make a difference in this world and contribute to the higher good. You’ll find it gives more meaning to your life and it’s a great antidote to boredom. There is always so much to be done. And talk to others about what you are doing. Don’t preach or be self-righteous, or fanatical about it, that just puts people off, but at the same time, don’t be shy about setting an example, and use opportunities that arise to let others know what you are doing.

5. Steve Jobs said: “There’s a phrase in Buddhism, ‘Beginner’s mind.’ It’s wonderful to have a beginner’s mind.”

It is the kind of mind that can see things as they are, which step by step and in a flash can realize the original nature of everything. Beginner’s mind is Zen practice in action. It is the mind that is innocent of preconceptions and expectations, judgements and prejudices. Think of beginner’s mind as the mind that faces life like a small child, full of curiosity and wonder and amazement.

6. Steve Jobs said: “We think basically you watch television to turn your brain off, and you work on your computer when you want to turn your brain on.”

Reams of academic studies over the decades have amply confirmed television’s pernicious mental and moral influences. And most TV watchers know that their habit is mind-numbing and wasteful, but still spend most of their time in front of that box. So turn your TV off and save some brain cells. But be cautious, you can turn your brain off by using a computer also. Try and have an intelligent conversation with someone who plays first person shooters for 8 hours a day. Or auto race games, or role-playing games.

7. Steve Jobs said: “I’m the only person I know that’s lost a quarter of a billion dollars in one year…. It’s very character-building.”

Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake. There is no such thing as a successful person who has not failed or made mistakes, there are successful people who made mistakes and changed their lives or performance in response to them, and so got it right the next time. They viewed mistakes as warnings rather than signs of hopeless inadequacy. Never making a mistake means never living life to the full.

8. Steve Jobs said: “I would trade all of my technology for an afternoon with Socrates.”

Over the last decade, numerous books featuring lessons from historical figures have appeared on the shelves of bookstores around the world. And Socrates stands with Leonardo da Vinci, Nicholas Copernicus, Charles Darwin and Albert Einstein as a beacon of inspiration for independent thinkers. But he came first. Cicero said of Socrates that, “He called philosophy down from the skies and into the lives of men.” So use Socrates’ principles in your life, your work, your learning, and your relationships. It’s not about Socrates, it’s really about you, and how you can bring more truth, beauty and goodness into your life everyday.

9. Steve Jobs said: “We’re here to put a dent in the universe. Otherwise why else even be here?”

Did you know that you have big things to accomplish in life? And did you know that those big things are getting rather dusty while you pour yourself another cup of coffee, and decide to mull things over rather than do them? We were all born with a gift to give in life, one which informs all of our desires, interests, passions and curiosities. This gift is, in fact, our purpose. And you don’t need permission to decide your own purpose. No boss, teacher, parent, priest or other authority can decide this for you. Just find that unique purpose.

10. Steve Jobs said: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Are you tired of living someone else’s dream? No doubt, its your life and you have every right to spend it in your own individual way without any hurdles or barriers from others. Give yourself a chance to nurture your creative qualities in a fear-free and pressure-free climate. Live a life that YOU choose and be your own boss.

1. Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
2. Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
3. Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?
4. Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
5. Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you.
6. Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
7. Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
8. Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
9. Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.

在上个周五，工作实在让人透不过气，希望只是一个过渡期，所有的冲力可以让日后的工作逐渐上一个轨道．

也想想，好像很久没正式好好尽兴，所以与友人如常吃了晚餐后，就两人同声相应且即兴的说去Ｃｏｔｔｏｎ　Ｃｌｕｂ听听ｌｉｖｅ　ｂａｎｄ．不过，后来得知原来休息整个礼拜，就“转码头”去了Ａｍｐａｎｇ　Ａｌｅｘｉｓ，怎知我自己一去就上瘾，原来自己这么喜欢ｂｉｇ　ｂａｎｄ，ｊａｚｚｙ，ｂｌｕｅｓ的ｌｉｖｅ　ｂａｎｄ音乐，那种气氛，那种音乐，那种无拘无束，忘却烦恼，　那种歌声参杂一点点的烟酒味，甚至可以找回遗忘已久的开心。

回来后，空气中仍一直飘荡着Ｃｏｎｎｉｅ　Ｆｒａｎｃｉｓ，Ｂｕｅｎａ　Ｖｉｓｔａ　Ｓｏｃｉａｌ　Ｃｌｕｂ，Ｅｄｉｔｈ　Ｐｉａｆ的音乐，拉丁音乐虽然让人感觉有些颓废，但骨子里确是开心的，还很记得初次在Ｂｕｅｎａ　Ｖｉｓｔａ　Ｓｏｃｉａｌ　Ｃｌｕｂ这部纪录片所带来的感动，非常难用笔墨形容。

原来我是需要通过音乐加跳舞来消除压力的人，真的很开心。谢谢你，秀蓉！ Ｈｏｐｅ　ｙｏｕ　ｗｉｌｌ　ａｌｗａｙｓ　ｂｅ　ｃｏｎｔｅｎｔｅｄ　ａｓ　ａｌｗａｙｓ！